Interviews With Experts

Hospice in Assisted Living?

Many don't know that there is the option to bring hospice care into assisted living as their loved one nears the end. In the families I've worked with who have done this is, I've seen more peace with the process, which is a true gift for all involved. To read the whole article, visit: https://www.wral.com/hospice-in-assisted-living-/17726243/...
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I had been out most of the afternoon visiting family care homes and was writing up my findings for a client when I noticed the time. 6:30. The report was due in the morning. My neighborhood women’s group was due to start in fifteen minutes at Marie’s. It had been a long day. I was struggling...
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Working with Aging Adults with Significant Vision and Hearing Loss

“Hello, John, it’s Liisa here,” I say gently, but loudly, my mouth closest to John’s left ear. His eyes are open. I place my hand gently on his shoulder and say, “Is there anything I can help you with?” John, like several of my oldest clients, is almost entirely blind, as well as hearing impaired. I...
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A Cartography of Waiting

How does one live in the now while also awaiting the results of significant health tests? Everyone finds a way because there is no choice. Over the last three weeks, since an unanticipated hospital stay (what hospital stay is anticipated?), I have been stuck in this mode of waiting—waiting for my body to be cleared of...
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Avoid These Common Setbacks When Moving in Assisted Living

It is stressful enough to get mom or dad to agree to move to Assisted Living, much less to complete all the required paperwork. Keep in mind, a smooth move-in day can make the transition very easy or even harder. Here are some tips on how to prepare given by veteran Care Coordinator Norelle Kranking,...
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Caregiver Support Groups

Caregiving can be a very isolating experience and while family and friends may be supportive and well-meaning, they can’t fully understand the impact of caregiving on one’s life. Recently, several of my clients have asked for support due to severe burnout. I reached out to Laurie Ray, MSW, CMSW, C-ASWCM, an Advanced Professional Aging Life...
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Fear

Sometimes old coping mechanisms don't work in new situations. Sometimes we are forced to change. It's not always a bad thing. The bulk of my clients call me in crisis and full of fear. Fear that there is no solution to address the very difficult situation at-hand or, if there is one, they cannot afford it....
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Say Thank You

When words aren't sufficient to express how grateful you are, say thank you anyway. Most of my working hours are spent helping care for someone else in need, but this past week, when I was having a hard time standing up straight and doing the simplest of chores,...
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The Radical Benefits of Kindness

All acts of kindness, big or small, can undoubtedly provide some real value to the recipients of those acts, but maybe at the end of the day, they can provide something more important for those with a paintbrush, a drill or saw in their hands: a chance to get out of their own heads for...
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Dear Dad

Dear Dad, Working now daily with people--many at the end of their lives--I am well aware that too often we don't say the most important things that we carry in our hearts. Here is my attempt to do so. When I was young, I often had nightmares. I remember quite distinctly you bringing me downstairs for...
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What is a Death Cafe?

Death Café is an international program intended to allow people to discuss anything related to death and dying. Someone recently forwarded an invitation for an upcoming Death Cafe. What is that, you might ask, as did I. I called the facilitator of the Raleigh-based Death Cafe, Heather Hill. Heather is a licensed funeral director at  Read more


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Sex After 60

According to Marriage, Family, Sex Therapist Laurie Watson, unless your plumbing is broken, you can (and should) have intimate relations until you die. In this blog, she answers some questions no one wants to ask in public, but many want to know. While editing my recent interview with Raleigh-based marriage, family counselor and sex therapist  Read more


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For the Birds

What happened when 31-year-old Harvard Medical grad Bill Thomas became medical director of a nursing home, where he brought in pets, birds, and gardens? You might be surprised! Like my father, and his father before him, I’m an early riser. With three teenagers in the house, I love starting the day when the house is still...
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Changing Your Story

It's a good reminder that as we age, our need for friendships and relationships doesn't go dormant. If anything, now that we are less rushed with work and family and the busy-ness of life, we might need and crave community even more. As C.S. Lewis once said, "You can't go back and change the beginning, but...
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Super Senior Bob Ross

Meet Super Senior Bob Ross, who at 92, still maintains a busy social schedule and chalks up his longevity to good genes, good friends and family, and daily exercise. He had a cup of coffee in one hand and was gesturing while telling a group of six ladies around a small table in the lobby that...
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