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Your elderly neighbor takes a fall, hits her head and passes out. You call 911. When the ambulance arrives, a young paramedic asks, "Any medical conditions we should know about?" You have no idea what to say. According to NC Information Technology, 7.3 million calls were made to 911 in North Carolina in 2017 alone. (Over 100,000...
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Mom’s got cold feet. What now?

Two weeks ago, after working closely with a family to find just the right assisted living community for their mother, we settled on the perfect place. It could meet the mother's needs, was proximate to both her second husband and her adult child and was within their budget. The adult children completed the paperwork, placed...
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The picture doesn’t always tell the whole story

I recently ran into a neighbor at the Y whom I deeply respect and love. I’ve known her for fifteen years now and every Christmas she sends out easily the most creative card we receive. I called out, "Great holiday card!" She responded, "It’s all fake." There was a pause, then I said, "Whose isn't?" This exchange made me...
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Adult day care: a good option for working adult children

One of my kids recently told me their teacher was really struggling because the mother she cared for in her home had taken a sharp turn for the worse due to dementia. This teacher was taking such good care of my child, I wanted to do something for her in return. They did not have...
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The ABC’s of longterm care

I recently met with a family who have been caring for their 90-year-old mother in their home. They have done so willingly out of love, but as her needs have increased, they fear they will not be able to do so for much longer while also keeping her safe. The issue is, like many people,...
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What legal documents does mom need in place?

A client recently contacted me after her 94-year-old mother took a fall, which landed her in the Emergency Room. Fortunately, the mother remained alert and was able to clearly communicate to the attending physician what had happened, where it hurt and what she wanted done. However, this was a wakeup call for her daughter, with...
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Preventing Senior Scams

A client recently told me her mom had fallen victim for the third time to a scam in which someone called and demanded access to her computer. The mother gave it, lost money and also all the data on her computer. My client said she has talked with her mom over and over about avoiding...
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Reduce junk mail and email and sales calls

Did you know that the average American household receives over 850 pieces of junk mail, or the equivalent of 1.5 trees, every year? Add to that over 150 solicitation calls and thousands of email spams, and you can quickly feel like you’re climbing a never-ending Mount Everest of advertisements. You don’t have to be over...
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A meaningful holiday gift: Our stories

Two years ago, on the occasion of their fiftieth wedding anniversary, my parents invited my family and my brother Erik’s to join them for one week in Helsinki, Finland, where they married on December 21, 1965. It was a production to line up everyone’s schedules. My husband has to request time off three to six...
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Best books for those caring for their parents

When I first became pregnant, I remember rushing to the bookstore. This was new territory. I am someone who likes to feel prepared. Where should I turn? My default has always been books. But there were hundreds to choose from. The one that consistently got the highest marks...
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Beating the holiday blues

The holidays are a time when anyone can experience “the blues,” but especially seniors. According to the American Medical Resource Institute, over 6 million people over 65 are depressed. There are many reasons, from loneliness or loss of a spouse, to chronic health conditions and having to depend primarily or even solely on...
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Tips for traveling seniors

Not long ago, a client lamented the fact that she didn’t see her grandchildren who lived on the west coast but once a year. “Now that they’re older, they’re too busy to visit,” she said, adding, “And I’ve had two knee replacements. I can’t manage the airport chaos.” Travelling can be daunting for anyone, but especially for...
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Gift ideas from the NC Assistive Technologies Program

Not long ago, a 95-year-old client of mine who lives in Assisted Living, mentioned that he had recently seen someone using a portable magnifier with a flashlight to read the lunch menus. My client is incredibly well-read, which makes the fact that his eyesight is declining all the more frustrating. We borrowed his neighbor’s magnifier...
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Choosing a home care agency

Thanksgiving has come and gone. While it was great to see everyone, for some adult children visiting senior parents, it was also suddenly apparent that Mom or Dad needed home help. While this has historically been provided by family living nearby, now with the majority of adult children working fulltime, many with children at home...
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Just listen

The first text came in at 5:04 am. “Call me ASAP,” an old friend wrote, followed by questions she had about which rehab she should go to when she was discharged in two days. “I’m spinning,” she texted. “Help.” She was a dear friend. I fixed a quick cup of coffee and went out to call her...
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Remembering to be thankful at Thanksgiving

"I sure am learning a lot," a dear friend told me when I opened her door to bring over dinner. She was sitting in a narrow wheelchair, with her right leg elevated and some major pins and hardware sticking out of it. She had been through two surgeries in the last 10 days after a fluke...
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Signs that mom may need home help

It's the time of year when family return home for the holidays. If a lot of time has passed since the last visit, it can also be a moment when certain worrisome declines become more apparent. There is a rule of thumb among geriatricians that after the age of 80, one can expect to see a...
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